“The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if it hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration. “ -Pearl S. Buck
Have you ever had the feeling like you and your disconsolate heart might just self-destruct? Right here? Right there? Right now?
That your nerves would break down to their most raw state; that they would have a wreck amongst themselves, totally wrecking you?
Leaving you nerveless. In our fears, in our tears. In the wondering and the worrying; the uncertainty of life. In all of the things we cannot control no matter how much we crave we could; our near-desperate attempts to make life work the way we so-much-wish-it would… Sometimes our thoughts lose their way, getting stuck in a quagmire of quenching and quashing all that matters the most.
To do something straining-brave like live a beautiful life takes a lot of nerve.
Nerve can wreck you. But nerve can embolden you. Strengthen you. Solidify you. Reinvigorate you. Shakespeare’s words for it were “screw your courage to the sticking place.” Tighten up your courage until it is fixed in the place in order not to fail.
We can rise from that wreck of self-focused fiber of neural tissue, reorienting ourselves toward actively loving others in life-giving ways. Face our fears and feel our tears. Relinquish our tendency to love in strangling-selfish ways. We can be patient. We can be kind and tender and compassionate and supportive and loyal and hopeful. We can rejoice over the happiness of others. We can be inviting, ever ready to believe the best. We can be not envious, arrogant, boastful, or easily provoked. Not puffed up, demanding our own way, not inflated with a sense of our own importance. We can bear one another’s burdens.
Love of an eternal nature bears and believes and hopes and endures and retains the grace given and goes on to continual increase.
It is our sticking place. This kind of love will not fail. Only by this kind of love can we resemble to any degree God’s love in loving Him and others. Let the self destruct. Of course your nerves will wreck you.
Be bold. Be courageous. Be brave.
Live your beautiful life in love.